tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33740831.post3552403110921459747..comments2023-05-28T08:14:32.355-04:00Comments on The Way We Spend Our Days Is the Way We Spend Our Lives: checklist mom-ingalexandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15170652655203156977noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33740831.post-87030942817023483962012-02-19T23:36:16.406-05:002012-02-19T23:36:16.406-05:00I read all these posts a while ago but have to say...I read all these posts a while ago but have to say I totally relate to the shifting center of gravity. Life revolves around getting the older boys to and from school and I have never once taken Bennett out just to walk around the neighborhood like I used to do with Charlie all the time. I feel bad for the little guys and it makes me want to have all my kids really quick and be done(like one more). Crafts have gone the way of all the earth. Oh, and lest you be impressed with our tooth-brushing, both Charlie and Max have EIGHT cavities. But I think there is a lot of value in having a happy and relaxed mom, and also a lot of value in the kids learning to entertain themselves on their own. Your checklist sounds noble but even the thought of making one for myself makes me resentful of the rules and obligations!Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12695860217448111937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33740831.post-34751746597225748162012-01-26T14:35:48.062-05:002012-01-26T14:35:48.062-05:00Alex, I've loved getting caught up on your blo...Alex, I've loved getting caught up on your blog, and I'm frustrated by your Obama post. Could we just please have people be honest? I was so frustrated during the last presidential debate, watching Romney and Gingrich call each other liars for half an hour. So frustrating.Sister Tara Bowenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05822513559990286405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33740831.post-54138059020242672492012-01-25T01:01:48.221-05:002012-01-25T01:01:48.221-05:00Lyndsay, I only did what I had to to keep everyone...Lyndsay, I only did what I had to to keep everyone from going crazy. I think it was mainly for Andrew. Ever since he left all day, we just hang out and play in pajamas. We seriously dont even dress anymore. My new rules include things like "smile!" and "brush teeth." I realized when I reread it that I sound much more ambitious than I really am. I think there is something to be said, though, for just lowering the bar and being ok with that--even proud of just brushing teeth, smiling, and not cursing.alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15170652655203156977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33740831.post-2272952077673961372012-01-25T00:25:13.972-05:002012-01-25T00:25:13.972-05:00Maybe I'm missing the point, but I'm total...Maybe I'm missing the point, but I'm totally impressed that you were per-schooly at any point, so the fact that you've scaled it back still puts you at a parenting level much above mine. I've been thinking about parenting a lot now thr I have two kids and the road ahead seems daunting.Lyndsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17311098134411154542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33740831.post-82283537407284289452012-01-24T21:16:34.544-05:002012-01-24T21:16:34.544-05:00It seems strange to comment as I am fortunate enou...It seems strange to comment as I am fortunate enough to speak with you almost every day. Andrew, Will, and Porter are so lucky. <br />I have gotten far worse as a mom the more kids I have and I so appreciate the inspiration you have given me to be better, as always.melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12802882805386712473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33740831.post-13666477552322035292012-01-24T17:24:53.114-05:002012-01-24T17:24:53.114-05:00You are a wonderful mother, Alexandra. I've al...You are a wonderful mother, Alexandra. I've always thought so. And I am thoroughly impressed by your old schedule- crafting every day?! It is interesting, the things you let go (by necessity or laziness or whatever) when you have more than one child. I think in our family, Peter has it the worst, as far as lazy parenting goes. He kind of just gets lumped in with Benjamin. I love the Mom list idea! I may have to try that out.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16092323690627099241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33740831.post-65220407282850405242012-01-24T14:25:38.396-05:002012-01-24T14:25:38.396-05:00I love the idea! I'll have to brainstorm up on...I love the idea! I'll have to brainstorm up one of my own. I think it would be nice to see a list of what minimal things I accomplished rather than getting bogged down... or forgetting altogether... the things I missed at the end of the day. <br /><br />A year or two ago I started a cleaning checklist spreadsheet for myself. I will almost never clean my whole house in one day (except when guests come). But it does help to see what day I did which task last, either to make me feel better that it hasn't been as long as it seems, or induce a little guilt that the counter really should be cleaned off more than once a week. It's been so helpful for me.terrahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07630750615343585467noreply@blogger.com